The below is a quote I read today on a Facebook page. There are parts of this quote I couldn’t disagree with more. We can all agree that love is by chance, but is it work and do we fall out of love by choice? Although love and relationships go hand and hand, I often see many people confusing the two.
I believe love is never a choice; it just is and it just happens. We cannot choose who we fall in love with and we cannot choose who we fall out of love with. We fall in love because we become connected to another and as easily and naturally as we fall in love, we can fall out of love. Loving someone isn’t work; it isn’t a job. Love is a feeling that comes and unfortunately it goes.
Relationships are work and it is a choice to stay or leave. The work and effort we put into a relationship and our choice to leave depends upon the love in our heart. A person may choose to leave a relationship because the relationship turned abusive and destructive. You can love someone, but the relationship no longer works. You could have fallen out of love, but still respect a good relationship. Many times, if we have fallen out of love, we will not make a big effort to make a relationship work.
The question is if the love is gone and fallen away whether by choice or naturally, how much work should be put into a relationship? When is it time to fall in love again with a new relationship? I would love to read what people think about this.
I certainly agree with parts #1 & #2. However, the difficult part about #1 is deciding how patient to be for love to come around when it doesn’t hit you right away. Part #3 is tougher because some people find themselves unable to fall out of love with someone, even after things turn bad or after years apart. I think we fall out of love naturally and gradually. Those who think they can turn it off are fooling themselves.
While the phrase free love is often associated with promiscuity in the popular imagination, especially in reference to the counterculture of the 1960s and 1970s, historically the free-love movement has not advocated multiple sexual partners or short-term sexual relationships. Rather, it has argued that love relations that are freely entered into should not be regulated by law.